Mercy

For we ourselves were once foolish, disobedient, led astray, slaves to various passions and pleasures, passing our days in malice and envy, despicable, hating one another. But when the goodness and loving kindness of God our Savior appeared, he saved us, not because of any works of righteousness that we had done, but according to his mercy, through the water of rebirth and renewal by the Holy Spirit. This Spirit he poured out on us richly through Jesus Christ our Savior, so that, having been justified by his grace, we might become heirs according to the hope of eternal life. The saying is sure.
Titus 3:3-8

As a nurse

I realize I haven’t blogged much lately.  The beginning of (middle of, and end of …) the semester gets hectic.  The last few weeks have been no exception.

As a nurse, I often deal with things I won’t discuss in a blog. Private things, personal reactions, and stories that are really others.  I see some nursing sites these days that honestly bother me…. they talk about the “don’t like” things about their jobs. I don’t find them helpful. Everyone has things they “don’t like” about their job. Why not let your words heal……..

So as best as I can, I try.

My job has always been about children. Caring for the most vulnerable, sharing what I can share. I treat and have loved them all as if they were my own. I know they’re not, I know I only get them for a few moments…… but I love them anyway.

This week some friends lost their child, and I can no longer hide behind a professional mask. It hits hard, and it hurts. Another young life taken too soon. Another child lost in hopelessness and despair. Another family devastated by grief.

My words seem far to inadequate.

So I share this post today for those who’ve lost loved ones and children……  I share a link to a site that has helped me.  It’s a page where people discuss their grief and their coping…  I hope sharing the website, sharing a place where people talk and share, may help others who are struggling.

The website is called “The Grief Toolbox” 

Not every piece may help, but there will be ones that jump out, and you find you relate to..

Best my friends.

Hoping your days are filled with peace.

A Grief Toolbox

Where do you begin?

Where do you begin to deal with loss and grief when it hits you out of the blue…..

Whether it is expected or unexpected the loss of loved ones can leave you feeling like a bomb just went off nearby.  If it comes without notice, as the passing of my father did 7 years ago, it can seem as if you’re left blinded and deaf by the explosion.

Not only did I lose my father seven years ago, I lost my mother exactly 2 weeks before that.
My mom’s passing was expected, and a quiet relief from her struggle with illness, brain disease and dementia.  My father’s passing two weeks later was like a bomb…..

When the sound of the explosion wears off, and the dust settles, you’re left looking around and wondering what, if anything is left of your life.  You may look to friends or family members for comfort and support, but what is there, may be the not be what you expected to find.

That was what happened to me, and I’ve tried to understand it ever since.

I know people “deal with grief differently”, and there is “no set way” to deal with grief…. but when the people you were counting on totally abandon you, it is painful and confusing.

I came across this website recently and I wanted to share.
The post today – is about friendships you have after the loss.

It’s about the one’s you thought you had, the ones you need, and the ones you weren’t expecting.
http://thegrieftoolbox.com/article/fivefriendsyoumeetyourgriefjourney

Here is a direct click link

I hope someone else finds it encouraging.