What is it about transition that makes us feel like we’re in a tunnel and can’t see what’s right around the corner. We go from zero to 70 mph and then back to 30 and life feels like a roller-coaster.
Some of our transitions are expected, and many are not.
If we live in a region with 4 regular seasons, we get used to the changes and know what to expect.
Why is it then, that life’s changes come in such unexpected ways? We go from being a student to a graduate, and suddenly we realize we’re starting a new job in a new place and with people we don’t yet know. We were single a year ago, and now are married and expecting our first child? We were surrounded by supportive friends last year, but they’ve moved away, and our life is now lonely and filled instead with people who would challenge and demean us?
Changes are a part of life.
Changes can vary from awesome to trying.
Dealing with some of the change can be challenging and emotionally draining. Remaining flexible helps, being open to finding the good in others and new things can help, yet sometimes that is not enough.
I recently reviewed some of my core “strengths“, from the Strength Finder assessment, and adaptability is one of mine strengths; in other words moving through transitions and remaining flexible and calm in the midst of them – is something I’m good at. That doesn’t mean, I find it all easy, I just evidently make it look easy to others.
How do I do this? What might I say that could help you?
1) Know yourself – know when you’re good at and not good at – and then assess the situation and transition in light of your strengths. What will help you get through? What will help you to see beyond the immediate to a successful future?
2) Seek support from others who have strengths in areas where you don’t.
3) Seek support period! Having a few friends who you’re able to talk to and who will support you through transitions is key.
4) Open yourself to learning things you don’t yet know about yourself, open yourself to others, and open yourself to learning things or skills you aren’t so good at yet.
5) Be kind to yourself and give yourself time to rest. Transition is or can be very unsettling, so giving yourself a few minutes, or days or a set amount of time to be in a safe – quiet space can be really helpful.
6) Know that transition is a temporary state. Eventually you will have close friends again, eventually you will feel more settled in your job, or home, or town.
7) Treasure the good things about the transition, the new friends, new experiences, and chance to grow…. be thankful.
The last thing – as a friend recently reminded me …
– – – -Enjoy the journey ..
& Be kind to those you meet along the way, for they are on a journey too.
But the wisdom from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, reasonable, full of mercy and good fruits, unwavering, without hypocrisy. And the seed whose fruit is righteousness is sown in peace by those who make peace. James 3:17-18